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Tips for Writing Messages to Women on OK Cupid

Writing messages to women on OK Cupid.

If you’re sick and tired of writing messages to women on Ok Cupid and not getting a response, here is a link to my product on writing first emails that I talk about in the video:
The secret to writing first emails to women

It’s frustrating writing endless emails and not getting a response from women. When I started online dating, NO ONE was writing me back. I’ve since learned a lot about sending first emails.

One of the biggest things is to screen the women you’re thinking about writing to so that it improves your chances of getting a response.

I’ve wasted a lot of time writing women messages on OK Cupid in particular. The video here shows you two things to look out for before you write an email. I’ve got a couple of tips to help you decide which women you should write to, and which women you want to ignore.

Click here for a complete system for writing first emails

Most guys screw up writing first emails, I did when I first started online dating years ago. I used to read a woman’s profile and try to think of something to say to her.

Sometimes I tried to be funny or cute. That rarely worked. I think I ended up sounding desperate.

I would talk about something in a girl’s profile… they didn’t know what I was talking about. I think it had been so long since they wrote their profile that they forgot what I was referring to.

I would ask a question about something they were interested in. No response.

I started sending short messages like, “Hey, I really like your profile. My name’s John, shoot me a message.” No response.

I quoted something from one of their favorite books or movies. No response.

I tried about everything I could think of and for the longest time, nothing worked.

Then I stumbled on a system of writing first emails that women replied to. It was an accident, really. I was just so fed up with it all that I was trying anything at all. And finally something worked!

That system is a system for getting women to reply to your messages on OkCupid, or any other online dating site for that matter. You can get it here.

Talk to you soon—JT

Online Dating Tips for Men: Your First Message

online dating tips for men first message

photo by UrbaneWomanMag

How do you write your first message to a woman?

This question has been coming up in my inbox a lot lately so I thought you’d appreciate it if I covered it here.

Over the last few months me and the guys I’m coaching have been experimenting with different ways to write a first message so it gets a response

We’ve tried everything from being cocky to being really nice. We’ve experimented with long emails and compared that to short messages.

We especially focused on the psychology that drives getting a woman to reply to your first message.

So with style, length and psychology in mind, here are our latest…

Online dating tips for men First Message

First of all length didn’t matter all that much. A long thoughtful message got just as many replies as a 4 or 5 sentence message that got her interest up.

So, you might as well keep your first message fairly short. First of all, you don’t waste time if she doesn’t email you back.
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Showing high value in your online dating profile

Your online dating profile needs to show high value

Showing high value in your online dating profile is something that we’ve been touching on quite a bit lately. After this post we’ll move on to another major subject, but I wanted to make sure that I gave you a full set of knowledge on this one before tackling the next.

The bottom line is that a woman won’t date you if she doesn’t think your “value” is at least as high as hers–and it’s definitely in your favor to demonstrate higher value. There’s some detailed information and great examples of how to accomplish that in some of our previous posts. But today I’d like to zero in one way in particular: showing that you have had other women that find you attractive.

Just the mere fact that other women who are similar to the one you’re currently seducing have found you attractive makes it a ton easier to get the one you’re after. The best, and boldest way to show this is to actually be involved with one and let her know it. Even bring that one to meet the girl you’re seducing.

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How To Be Confident Online

Learning how to be confident is critical to your success

Here’s something you have to understand: women will find it very attractive if you’re self-assured. OK, maybe that’s not a big surprise. You hear all the time that confident guys are way better with girls—maybe you even know someone in your own life who demonstrates that.

But–contrary to popular opinion–confidence isn’t something that you are born with, it’s something you develop by being good at the things you do and comes from the knowledge that you can handle a variety of situations that you will potentially find yourself in. And yes, it definitely displays a variety of different qualities that women are attracted to.

One of the only ways to gain confidence is to put yourself in a variety of different situations and learn how to adapt your actions and personality to get the results you want.

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Another tip for demonstrating high status in your online dating profile

Your online dating profile is the first thing she’ll see

We talked a little while ago about how important it is to show high status in your online dating profile. The ideas we went over are definitely essential to do so, but there’s one more that I want to share with you before we move on to another subject, and that’s giving her the impression that you’re busy.

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