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Choosing The RIGHT Women To Send Messages To

A woman at home on her bed is excited to get a message from a guy on an online dating site.

Women will fall all over themselves to write you back and get to know them if you target the right women and write good messages.

Today we’re going to talk more about online dating, in particular the importance of sending online dating messages only to women whose type you want to meet.

One of the things I need to cover for you is the impact of sending online messages to a lot of women, or the wrong women. Some guys seem to think it’s a good idea to send EVERYONE a message “JUST IN CASE”.
Not so…

First of all, dating sites track how often you send online dating messages and to who. And the site uses that information to try to automatically make matches for you. It’s a great idea, they’re trying to help you… but you can run into problems…

Let’s say you’re on POF, Match, OKCupid or wherever and some overweight, 62 year old unemployed Samoan woman sends you a message and you reply to her.

Then you respond to a message from another woman who’s 55, Samoan, fat and unemployed. well, here’s what happens…

The algorithm on these sites keep track of who you’ve sent messages to…
AND it assumes that since you messaged a few of women of this type, you must like them.

So, this sort of woman will continue to show up in your sidebars and suggestions as you go from page to page.

WHAT’S MORE… is that overweight, unemployed Samoan women in their early 60’s will see YOUR thumbnail when they’re navigating through the website and therefore be more likely to find you. Ick!!! (Well, ick for me anyway, not my kind of girl. Fine if it’s yours though, no judging here.)

Pretty girl you might meet online dating, but be sure to go on more than just looks.

Super-attractive women are the only ones you want to send messages to.

By the way, if you’re looking at your buddy’s account and see a bunch of thumbnails of geriatric pygmy midgets, you know who he’s been messaging.
You get quadruple wammied when you send messages to types of women you’re not interested in. You show up in their thumbnails, and they show up in yours. That’s two bads…

And… that means the women you’re REALLY interested in don’t show up in your suggestions. And you DON’T show up in the suggestions to women you’re actually interested in. That’s two more bads.

You’ve got to either reply only to the women you want, or reply to EVERYONE who sends you messages. (That’s what I do, using my copy and paste “blow off” emails included in my book on writing online dating profiles..)

Oh, and I say “reply” here all the time because if you’re using my system in Magnetic Profiles, you probably don’t have time to do searches and send initial emails because you’re too busy responding to the girls who contacted you already.

But… if you’re not using my system (or you just feel like doing searches) and have to send that first message, the same holds true. Only send messages to women whose type you’re interested in.

And yeah, I know it seems like “Duh, JT. Why would I send a message to someone I’m not interested in?”

Woman relaxing while reading her online dating messages

Sending your messages to women you’re attracted to for more than just their looks will get you great results.

But the thing is, I’ve done it (even when I wasn’t replying to everyone). Like if a woman is really nice and I feel like she deserves a reply. Or she asks me a question I know I can help her with. Or if she really pisses me off. 🙂

Once in awhile a guy I’ve just started working with says that he blankets the site and send emails to a ton of women, regardless. No, no, no.

Who should you be sending online dating messages to?

You’ve got to be selective in who you send your online dating messages to.
A thing about online dating is that you can make this work in your favor. You just do a quick search for women you’re interested in and contact 5 or 10 of them using the copy and paste emails in my system. You DON’T want to send the same message to a whole bunch of women, so I give you a bunch to choose from.

Once you’ve sent these emails out, the site’s algorithm will make your thumbnail show up as these women click around the site. And you’ll appear for OTHER women that are similar to the ones you sent your initial messages to. You let the website do the work for you!

The site will literally make your profile thumbnail show up for women you’d be interested in, even though you’ve never seen these girls before!

So again, one of the keys about online dating is only sending online dating messages to women whose type you want to meet.

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