Does the “Wanna Screw?” email ever work?
I don’t know about you guys, but I’m always hearing about the weirdos on online dating sites.
I always wondered whether or not that worked…
And when I first signed up for POF with my girl’s fake profile, ‘she’ got one of those messages.
He said something like, “Damn your hot, want to have sex?”
So I had my fake girl send him back a message asking if that ever worked.
At first he said, “No, not really.” And then when she didn’t reply, he sent another message that said…
“Actually it does, I’ve slept with over 100 women.”
Like an idiot, I just blew the guy off without finding out which was true, not working at all, or into triple digits. My gut tells me that if he was in triple digits with that method, the women he was sleeping with weren’t prizes… but I’ll never know for sure.
If any of you guys out there have tried this, I’d love to hear your results. And, if worse comes to worse, I could test this myself. It’s just that sending messages like that creeps women out and it gives online dating a bad rep.
I ran across something like this on another site where a woman wrote in and asked about one of these messages…
Ah yes, the “F*&k me form letter,” as my friend AJ put it. The law of probability tells us that if you write to a shit-ton of people, even with a simple, lame come-on, eventually somebody will respond. However, that doesn’t tell us how many a “shit-ton” constitutes, nor does it guarantee that a response will ultimately lead to sex. Lucky for us, in February, University of Michigan psychologist Terri Conley released a paper about casual sex that tackled a similar topic.
Published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology,Conley’s research probed (sorry) what motivates heteros to have casual sex by asking how they would react to a stranger propositioning them in broad daylight.* Men were far more likely to agree to such a proposition, while women were not.
Umm… yeah, I don’t think that’s going to make the evening news. But it adds fuel to the fire of people who say men’s libidos are out of control.
It was really interesting to see why women were less likely to agree to spontaneous sex though.
For one thing …
the risk factor of such an encounter is higher for women, who have been told from a very early age not to accept penis candy from strangers. The other is that women know that their chances of being satisfied by a one-night stand or equivalent are low. Source.
Then they got into something that I totally, 100% agree with… the researchers concluded that if women had the opportunity to have casual sex where they were safe… and they thought they would end up sexually satisfied, that they would be much more open to the idea.
I have seen this play out hundreds of times. As long as you can make a woman feel safe, not just physically safe, but emotionally safe, safe from her friends and family finding out, and safe from erratic behavior… they are almost guaranteed to sleep with you.
But, I can also just about guarantee you that a 2 line copy and paste message isn’t going to make any woman feel safe.
Click here for some great examples of online dating emails.
And hey, you know I’m a big fan of not having to write first messages to women… and that I have an eBook that gets women to email you first. If you don’t have it yet, you can buy it here.
