Attracting women is pretty simple, or at least it’s based on simple principles that anyone can learn.
I want to give you what I think is one of the biggest secrets to attract women.
It’s to let a woman prove herself to you before you decide you like her.
This is the secret to getting girls to chase you, and what people mean when they say that girls like a challenge.
You’ve probably noticed that sometimes when you let a girl know you like her she either disappears… or tells you she just wants to be friends… or wants to slow things down. This catches a lot of us by surprise, after all, it works in the movies. (When Harry Met Sally, Princess Bride, Titanic, and my favorite… Love Actually).
The movies aren’t real life though. And professing your love to a woman before she’s ready always backfires.
So what’s the answer?
Make her qualify herself to you before you tell her you’re attracted to her.
Here’s the psychology behind this… guys are wired to be attracted to women primarily based on her looks and hip to waist ratio (think hourglass figure here).
So we like a woman pretty much right when we see her, and if we show her we’re attracted to her, she’s likely to run because…
She’s using much different standards to decide whether or not she likes you, and she expects you to be using the same criteria.
See, the things she’s basing her attraction on take a while to figure out, that’s what her games are, they are tests to see if you are someone she’s interested in. And for her to think your affection is genuine, you have to put her through a few tests before liking her.
When you put her through these tests, you’re making her prove herself to you, being a challenge, and making her attracted to you. Women WANT you to do this. It’s essential for them to feel secure in a relationship. Why?
Because you need to let a woman show you that you find her attractive as a person.
It’s an incredible turnoff, and a bit scary for a woman when a guy’s attracted to her because of her appearance or superficial qualities alone. She doesn’t want to be put on a pedestal for her exterior qualities.
Often the key to seducing some of the most attractive women is simply not screwing it up. What you don't do is as important as what you do.
It makes her uncomfortable. She’s going to worry that she won’t be able to live up to your expectations once you get to know her. She’s going to worry that she’s not good enough for you. She’s going to worry she’s going to let you down.
So, she has to know there’s something besides her exterior that you find attractive about her or she’s going to feel vulnerable and worry that the relationship is headed for a break-up.
One sign that a woman doesn’t feel like you know her well enough to really like her is if she wants to “slow things down”… possibly asking if you can hold off on anything physical for awhile.
Unless it’s a blow-off, and you’ll know if that’s what you’re getting, the problem is that she is feeling really attracted to you but doesn’t feel safe letting go because she doesn’t feel like you know her well enough yet.
And she’s right. 100% dead on right. You DON’T know her well enough yet, and you need to back up and find something special about her that she values about herself too..
There are some specific ways to let a girl show you that she’s more than just a pretty face and I go over the basics in the video here. And there is a system I designed called ORBO that works every time.
It stands for Opportunity, Reward, and Back Off. It’s an advanced form of flirting and I go over it in detail in Instant Internet Attraction, but I want you to understand how to do this right away.
You ask questions and say things that give her an Opportunity to open up to you and show something special about herself.
Then you Reward her for being honest. And finally Back Off a little bit to make her more comfortable and keep the sexual tension building.
When you do this, you find things about a girl that you respect and cherish. This not only makes your attraction real, it also creates instant and long-lasting attraction in women.
Plus, it saves you from ending up in friend’s zone, having to slow down, and most importantly… from hurting someone. And if this makes sense to you, click here to see how to use this technique to it’s advantage and get women you meet online attracted to you.
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