Follow up message to your first online dating email

So your first email goes unanswered, or the girl writes back and says she’s not interested, or otherwise blows you off. What do you do? Well, here is a great example of an email written by a guy who got blown off by my fake girl on POF. You can use what he does to get women who you might have otherwise missed out on.

Okay, in the last post I said that I’d show you an example of a pretty good follow up to a first online dating message written to one of my girls with a fake profile.

I used the psychology in this message to write some of the emails we are now experimenting with. And in case you are coming in late, we are testing different emails to send to women on the online dating sites when you make first contact. And…

What to write in follow-up emails if they ignore your first message, which women on online dating sites are notorious for doing.

So let me explain the situation here…

My fake girl, got a message from this guy who was coming into town and wanted to get together with her. She gets at least 2 of these a day. It gets old, even for me, and I’m not really her.

She sent him an email back and said she’d LOVE (saracasm) to get together and to call her to set it up. But the number she gave him was the rejection hotline.

Then he wrote back what I consider to be a damn good message There are some great tips for the first follow up message. (And yes, I will give you the ones I have written too, but I want you to write your own and experiment to see what we are doing here.) Study this example to see how to write your own follow up email message.

His first email he opened simple with:

Guy: Interesting stuff. I’m in Vegas for a few days and wanted to say hi – drinks?

My fake girl: I’d love to. No one from out of town ever asks me to do anything at all, ever. So it would be great to get together… I mean what an irresistible offer!

Give me a call if you’re free tonight!

And I love your profile! 🙂

Emily.
702-824-9474 (This is the number for the rejection hotline in Las Vegas)

Guy: You got me! Haha, I wonder if anybody ever actually orders the t-shirt. (They offer a t-shirt at the end of the call)

You can’t expect to live in a fake plastic city full of fake plastic people that exists because of fake marriages, gambling, prostitution and people trying to flaunt their wealth…and expect to meet (many) men of substance. Vegas is a place to pass through, usually not to live in (though my in-laws are retired in Phoenix) and most of the hot women here work in the service industry. In NY and Chicago there are hot women working as lawyers and other jobs that require an education, so those cities would tend to attract the men of substance. For a vacation, however, Vegas is attractive. So the point of my rant is (and I don’t want to sound like a pompous prick) you should recognize that somebody like me won’t live in Vegas, so you can either lower your standards and meet only locals, or you can give me a real phone number 😉

Now my thoughts.

Alright, I want to break this down for you so you know why I think this is such a good reply.

First of all, he doesn’t get mad, doesn’t take it personally. He even shows that he listened to the message on the rejection hotline and then LAUGHED about it. Pretty cool guy.

Then he goes on to slam the guys in Vegas, which isn’t a bad idea considering she is on a dating site, so she’s not having much luck in her hometown. And it sets him up to make his next statement about the quality of men who are OUT of the area, and he is one of those.

Also note that he could have written this message just for my girl, but this could also be a standard second email that he sends to women who don’t respond to him at all, or turn him down. I’d think very effective.

Third, I like where he says he doesn’t want to sound like a pompous prick. It shows he has good social intuition and that he might be a humble guy, just confident.

Fourth, he shows in the last sentence that he values himself and considers himself superior to most men. This is also attractive.

Writing emails to women in an art that I’ve already mastered for you… If you want to purchase my complete system on writing killer emails, check this out.

Many of you probably already have my book on writing online dating profiles if not, you can buy it here..

Talk to you later—JT