Internet dating can be a daunting task. Learning all you can about how to be successful will dramatically increase your effectiveness.
Today I want to share a cool Youtube video I was sent from a client. It features Aaron Marino, who has a business helping guys create an image for themselves. I really like the stuff that he has to say about style, grooming, and how to dress, so I was interested to see what he had to say about internet dating.
Some of the stuff he says is just plain funny, and some of it makes a lot of sense.
He talks about the difference between dating online and trying to meet women in clubs, and his analogy is pretty freaking hilarious. He calls internet dating “shooting fish in a barrel”, which is how I’ve thought about it for a long time.
You have your pick of the litter, and there’s no risk in “approaching” them online. There isn’t the same feeling of rejection when she’s not interested. Instead of an awkward moment, with her coming up with some silly excuse why she doesn’t want to talk to you, or worse yet—makes you feel like a fool for trying to talk to her. With online dating, if she’s not interested she just doesn’t respond. Easy peasy.
He also brings up some interesting ideas about online dating scammers, and about some of the crazies you’re going to meet out there. I think he’s spot on with this stuff.
It’s nice to hear things from a different perspective once in a while, and I like this guy’s approach. So take a couple minutes, check out the video, and let me know what you think.
For great info about writing a killer profile, check out this post. Or this one for learning how to email a woman you’re interested in online.
JT
Men or women are afraid of rejection – that’s just human nature.
And that’s why Online Dating has become so incredibly popular – it’s safe, you can get yourself ‘out there’ without being intimidated or unduly (or unnaturally) confrontational AND you can do it 24×7.
I remember when I was dating, the pub and club scene was just too false, for me. You hear about getting yourself a wingman and the various dating or pick up artist techniques – wow and no thanks.
Online dating is definitely where it’s at – though I am a Geek too 🙂
Hey Lorenzo,
I gotta agree with you. For a busy guy who doesn’t like b.s. and games, online dating is the way to go. Also, it’s one of the few places that “nice guys” really do well.
We do it respectfully and that alone separates us from most guys, online or offline. Great place to meet a lot of women really fast without risking much!
This guy is great! I hired him to give me a total fashion and wardrobe makeover.
Agreed. He is great with clothes for the right guy. He has some solid advice here too.
Hi JT, I’ve enjoyed reading your articles and the insight you provide; truly thought provoking. I’m interested in hearing your thoughts on how to navigate a relationship which grows from a very close (platonic) long distance friendship over 8 years to a more personal relationship. This is someone I commonly referred to as my best friend; we dated others throughout the 8 years but now that we’re together, we’re like fire and water. Can you explain this phenomenon?
Hey Brayden,
The idea of something is often easier to deal with than the reality of it.
When you aren’t together, it’s all kind of a fantasy. It’s not until you have to deal with someone day-to-day that yoiu find out what they’re like. And even friends don’t do well living together. I roomed with my best friend in college and I drove him nuts!
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