Dipping My Toe in the Pool of Online Dating
Internet Dating from a Woman’s Perspective
Online dating. I can honestly say I never saw myself going about finding love (or even a guy in general) this way, but hey, I am, and it’s pretty much the same as any other field of unfamiliarity… I judged before I tried.
I honestly thought online dating was a deal for losers who couldn’t get it done in the real world. But as a woman working her ass off day and night, who has spent the last year being single and the majority of her time split between writing assignments on a computer and time at the gym with some friends…
I find I’m interested in the options online dating provides. Meetings guys at the gym is a great tactic, but with that hot spot temporarily dry, I’m off to the computer, and hopefully greener pastures.
And because I’ve decided I’m only interested in people who actually read my profile rather than peruse the pictures, I’ve stated that anyone looking to contact me needs to email me with the word “organic” in the subject line. Pretty soon a decent looking young man (with both spelling and grammar capabilities… score) wrote me an email.
It’s both disarming and friendly, it’s the perfect mix. He also sent a couple pictures of him with friends, rock climbing (hot), and seeming like an overall completely normal person. I’m willing to shoot him an email back, and we’ll see where it goes.
A little nervous
But by no means, however, am I saying I’m not nervous. Within the first hour of posting my profile an email with the subject line “hey” popped up. Ever the hopeful, I opened it up to find the phrase, “Hey baby, if you’re lookin’ for a good time than so am I. U should post a pic of ur tits …)” Oh God, shoot me now. If this is what the online world has to offer, I’d rather be alone. Forever.
But what’s even more interesting, is what I’m preparing to learn. Some of these profile pictures are the most ridiculous things I’ve ever seen, and the written profiles are even more comical. I’m already planning a night with the girls where we kick back with a few bottles of wine, peruse the offerings, have some serious laughs and make some bad decisions.
Why would anyone want to go out with some of these guys?
But seriously, I’m completely dumfounded. With over 4,000 profiles to choose from, what makes a guy think I would choose the 1 hoo rites like ths? Or the one that says he makes a ton of money? Or the one asking for sexual favors? If I were dying to give a guy oral sex, do you really think I would have to go online to find someone? How dense can you be?
Having said all of that though, I still find myself a hopeless romantic. I’m sure there are some guys out there, like me, who just consider the world of online dating another way of meeting people. And why wouldn’t you? There are thousands of possible suitors right here at my fingertips, and the method of going through them is infinitely more convenient than trolling the bars. Plus I’m going to be at my computer writing all day anyway so…why not?
A letter to guys online dating
So since I am going to find myself on these sites, I thought it might be interesting to do a little write-up of what I’m seeing in the online dating scene. Consider it a letter to the cyber men of the world. I’ll be spilling all the little secrets. What makes a good profile and what makes a bad one. What makes a decent picture and what makes a creepy one. What makes me want to email you, want to get to know you, and want to actually meet you in person. And the only way any of that is going to happen is if I think you’re a trustworthy, fun, attractive guy, not a sleezeball. I can find plenty of sleezeballs by walking out the front door… I don’t need a computer to help me with that thank you very much.
So if you also find yourself in this curious new world, join me in navigating it. I promise I will make some mistakes (oh, so your dating picture is ten years old, not ten days old), but at least you will be there to laugh about it.
