Internet dating—is being rich important?
Let’s talk about a subject that a lot of guys worry about when it comes to internet dating. Well, worry might not be the right word, but nonetheless it is something that warrants a little attention. It’s the idea that being wealthy or having money makes it a lot easier to get a girl.
You know you see it, probably several times a week even–a chubby, not particularly attractive guy with a smoking hot woman. What’s the first thing that goes through your mind? “He must be rich”. Right? Not necessarily.
Granted, when a woman is with someone who can financially provide for her she has choices and options. It gives her security and stability. That’s a fact.
But if you’re not wealthy, it’s ok. I’m not rich and have dated several women earning high six-figure salaries and even a few millionaires. What’s important is to show that you’re on a path to somewhere meaningful, are driven to do something with your life and have passion. Passion and ambition makes her see you as a challenge. They’re inherently sexy, show that you’re a leader, and give her hope that one day you’ll be able to take care of her financially. Most of the time all a woman needs is the hope that you’ll be wealthy.
If you follow the system that we’ve been outlining here since the beginning, you’re going to show her right off the bat in your internet dating profile that you’re driven. But that’s not enough. You have to re-emphasize that fact throughout the seduction process. The way to do this by telling stories that create an emotional response in her. The kind of stories that prove you’re destined for success and show you in a leadership role.
Another way you can compensate for a lack of wealth is by showing her you live an adventurous lifestyle. By the way, if you don’t live an exciting life this is a great excuse to start doing the things you’ve always wanted to. If you are living a life where you’re pursuing your dreams and trying to be better every day, it’s going to be the kind of full life she wants to be part of.
If you stop and think about it, you’ll see how obvious it is. A woman doesn’t want to be with a guy who is stuck in a rut and unhappy with his life. But if you’re trying to make things happen and improve yourself then she’ll want to be there with you as you do it. Think about someone you know who is always full of positive energy, passionate and working toward a goal. Aren’t they magnetic and fun to be around? That’s what we’re going for here.
I just wanted to touch on this subject briefly because it’s something that comes up quite a bit when I’m coaching guys into success with women. Bottom line: money is not what’s important. It’s your attitude and actions that are.
As always, if you have questions shoot me a note and we’ll work together to get you where you want to be.
JT
HI ,
great site very interesting and common sense ideas , i should have tried this ages ago ..
Just divorced and hit the big 50 , and never had problems picking up on woman 10 yrs ago , but now it seems hard work for me finding the motivation and effort to go out and find another woman ?
I had tried on line 10 yrs ago , and ended up marrying a girl from Zimbabwe , and i was living in Asia , what was i thinking , and this led to divorce anyway .. And i think this happend as i doid not know what i wanted in my self , and who or what the true me was … and wanted
Now back in Australia I think i need to either be single for a while or get back on the horse ( so to speek ) and try again , I did post a profile 6 months ago and it was so week , i would not have even contacted me .
So , anyway , love your comments and will be reviewing your site and reading your comments a lot more
Cheers
Darren
Thanks a lot Darren,
Glad you like the site and are getting something out of it. I’m not far behind you in age, and I think us older guys can still do well with women. Most of the women I date are in their 20’s or early 30’s. I can just about guarantee you that the same things you were doing 10 years ago will work for you now. The principles HAVE NOT changed. For a lot of older guys all we need is to feel confident dating women, younger ones included, and the world just sort of picks up that cue from you and age doesn’t matter. At all.
And I love what you say about knowing yourself and knowing what you want. That is so important for being attractive. I’d think you are more appealing to women now than you ever were. Send me a message with any questions, and good luck my friend!
JT
She obviously likes you so when you are on your date just be yourself. Don’t hog the convo with stuff about yourself, ask her questions about herself and her likes and dislikes. Don’t drink too much, don’t spend too much basically don’t overdo trying to make an impression. Don’t expect sex. Have fun, hope it all goes really well!
Being yourself is all good if you have the skills to get her attracted to you by “just being yourself”. Otherwise self discipline is a REALLY good thing. Have the control to be your best self.
I think it’s worse for guys. I’m in the same boat, I’m a guy who is 24 and most people think I’m 18. So usually I can’t attract a girl my own age (I don’t really like kicking it with the youngsters).
A problem a lot of guys would love to have… 🙂
Ask her where she would like to go! I agree, spending too much or going over the top isn’t good. How about a visit somewhere or a walk somewhere beautiful followed by an inexpensive lunch? Doesn’t have to be in the evening. Have fun!
Decent suggestions here! I would say not to ask where she’d like to go. Not that her opinion doesn’t matter, it does. But you have to lead the girl. So instead of asking what she wants to do, suggest something and if she goes for it, all good. If she balks, then have a plan B. –JT
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