Internet dating—some points to consider about being high status

Alright, I’ve been harping on the cocky funny thing while internet dating for a while now…I think you need a break from it for a bit. So let’s tackle another online dating necessity before we get back to the cocky funny rant—deal? Deal.

I’ve talked a bit before about how important being high status is when making a women prove herself to you, especially on an internet dating site. I want to reiterate here that this is a key element to any seduction. If you look at any of my products where I break down real life seductions, you’ll see that the focus was always creating and maintaining high status.

This is such an important factor because a woman will ONLY have a relationship, of any kind whatsoever, with a man who has equal or greater status than she does.

Your status can be defined as how desirable you are to a girl at any given point in time. That, by definition, means that your status is subjective and can change as situations change. It’s not that you have to actually be a high status person. You can create the image of having high status depending on where you are, what you say, what you’re doing and how you act in certain situations.

Take a look at this. It’s a list of some of the things that will show you to have lower perceived value:

• Appear needy or desperate
• Seem alone or lonely
• Apologize for something
• Justify anything you’ve done or said
• Look for a woman’s approval
• Explain your actions, thoughts or behavior
• Defend yourself or your position on anything
• Rationalize to someone
• Allow anyone to have an emotional effect on you.

Now these are not things that you necessarily say outright. They show up when you say things like “I want someone who loves me for me.” “I’m looking for someone who understands me”. “I’m tired of being alone.” These are the things I see in guy’s profiles and they have a hint of desperation in them.

A lot of guys also tend to rationalize, apologize and defend themselves in their messages if a woman questions them or disagrees with something they’ve said. Even worse, sometimes they justify statements in their profile or try to explain themselves.

If you have anything like that in your profile, GET RID OF IT.

But sometimes the deck is stacked against you and you fall into low-value traps while dating online. Here are a few ways that sneak under the radar and put you in the low-value category.

• Writing her a message first
• Writing long messages to her
• Looking like you tried too hard on your profile
• Writing her over and over again with no response
• Trying to impress her

Granted, things like making it look like you didn’t try too hard in your internet dating profile and sending her a message first are really hard to avoid. But if you use the basic principles that we’ve been talking about since the beginning of this blog and some of the advice that is to come, you can still maintain your high status.

Let’s attack sending first emails in this post.

If you’re going to send her the first message, it’s possible to maintain your high status by including a variation of one of these below:

“You win. You got me to respond to your profile. 🙂 I’m picky, but there were a couple of things that have me curious about you. I’m heading out in a minute to meet friends, but take a look at my profile and if you have time, it would be great to have something from you in my inbox when I get home tonight. :)”

Or:

Tell you what… take a look at my profile and get back to me. There’s not much in your profile for me to go on. So I’m not really sure if I’d be interested or not, there are so many intangibles, but I certainly do appreciate your values and that’s a start.

Or:

You’ve got to help me out here. I WANT to like you but you’re NOT making it easy. I’m picky too, extremely, so I need more to go on than a few pictures and the fact that you’re true to yourself. Tell me more.

You can use any of these emails as is, or can modify them to be specific to your exact situation. I’d like to see you get some women messaging you first, so take a look at the information provided on this site!

Onward and upward my friends!!

Talk soon–JT

(By the way, the objective of my book Magnetic Profiles is to have a profile so good that women send you the first message so that your status is guaranteed higher than hers right from the start).