Yesterday I promised I’d tell you why I decided to get into the online dating advice niche.
If you remember from yesterday’s post the reason I help guys with women in general is that one, I’m really good at it. Two, you need me. Three, I don’t want anyone living the pitiful life I lived my first 20 years on earth. And four, I get a lot of satisfaction from helping guys become great with women and get their lives moving in a better direction.
Uh oh, I feel a little of my humility fading away… I feel a rant coming on… I feel the need to tell the world how great I am.
Bear with me while I toot my own horn, you’ll see how this benefits you in a second.
Yes, I’m good at meeting and dating women. One of the best in the world. And I’m proud of that. I’ve worked a lifetime figuring out how to make me and other guys attractive to women.
And believe me, it was work. There was no internet when I started, no books on meeting women, no I knew willing to mentor me. everything I learned, I learned through the school of hard knocks.
I’ve been shot down more than anyone I know. I am also in the top ninety-nine percentile of men as far as how many women I’ve been with. Babe Ruth style. You know he led in homeruns AND strikeouts, right?
But, I kept working at it, refining my style, making myself a better person. I have thousands of pages of journals on women. Thousands of hand written letters back and forth to girls. And thousands of emails to women all organized and cataloged
I’m obsessed, and I’ve been obsessed for going on 29 years now. When I first read “The Game” maybe 5 years ago, I couldn’t believe it. I had no idea there were guys out there like me. none of my friends believed the stuff I’d done with women and eventually I just stopped telling them my stories.
But here, in this book, were guys who were doing what I was doing, using very similar techniques and principles, and having the same success with women I’d had for years.
Except that these guys broke everything down. they knew (or in some cases just thought they knew) WHY it worked.
In some strange way, knowing there were guys out there who knew some of what I knew and could do some of what I did was incredibly validating. I wasn’t alone. there were guys who might fust understand my world.
Well, I got on the forums and started giving advice… for about 2, maybe 3 weeks. Then it became obvious that these guys weren’t really looking for success, they were looking for EXCUSES. Well, you guys know that that’s not going to fly with me. So I just quit writing and giving advice to people.
Oh, and another HUGE part of that decision was that the guys on the forums were just out to get laid and had no respect for the women they were picking up. The whole thing just turned my stomach.
Anyway….
When I first started on this journey, I got quite a few “knocks”. I wasn’t naturally good with women.
Like you already know, I was a bit socially behind, I had about everything going AGAINST me socially when I was younger.
For a long time I thought I started as far in the hole as a guy could. Now, I came to find out that’s not true, but I have had to deal with just about every problem, overcome every obstacle, and jump every hurdle any guy ever will when it comes to women and getting his life in order. There’s a lot of back story here, but I’m not ready to share that with the world on a website just yet. Maybe another time.
The point is, there ain’t nothing I haven’t seen for myself or gotten another guy through.
And I’m proud of myself. I’m proud of the guys who take my advice and become better with women. I’m proud of all the work I did to get to this point, and I’m proud of the work I do with guys to make them better people.
And crap, this is already too long. I’m going to finish up tomorrow and tell you why I got into the online dating advice niche.
