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Online dating profile writing that connects with women

Making an emotional connection with your online dating profile is crucial to your success!

Write your dating profile in a way that connects with women

After you’ve picked your headline and gotten your pictures sorted out, it’s on to writing your online dating profile. We talked a little while ago about the first paragraph, now let’s jump into the main part of your profile, where you talk about your job, interests, what you want in a woman and what she can expect from you.

How you write this is as important as what you write. The way you write and the style you use says a lot about you. In real world communication, tonality, body language and gestures make up 93% of our interactions. The manner in which you say something reveals a lot more about you than what you actually say.

What we’re going to do is make use of “bubble words”. JD Fuentes coined the term, and basically they’re words that create emotions in women. They’re ambiguous, vague and can be interpreted in many different ways by many different people.

Words like connection, wonder, renewal, peace, desire, fascination, freedom, trust, balance and joy fall into this category. Using these and words like them create an emotional connection with a woman as she gives meaning to the things you write.

One thing about bubble words, however, is that they were designed to be spoken. There’s a lot more wiggle room and room for error when you say them out loud rather than in your writing, so keep that in mind and tone it down a bit more in your online profile than you would in real life. After you’ve moved past the first communication, and especially on the phone and in person, you can be more liberal with them.

Keep in mind that women want all the details when they’re reading. The smells, colors, hues, textures, senses—the smallest details. Borrowing again from Fuentes, here are a couple options: faint, clear, loud, sticky, slow, glistening, soft, hard…you get the picture.

When you use these kinds of words she’s going to think that you’re the deepest guy she’s ever run into. She will think that you really understand her…because she understands you.

Women need to “feel” what’s going on in a story, and detailed descriptions allow them to do that. We want her to “feel” you. The emotional connection is the heart of successful seduction.
Let’s take a look at an example from my book Magnetic Profiles:

Example A: I like rock climbing. (Crappy.)

Example B: On most weekends you’ll find me out at Red Rock climbing the eastern rock face with my buddies enjoying the sunshine and company of good friends. (Not bad.)

Example C: I rock climb as much as I can. There’s something about the balance between the physical and mental challenge as you pick your next hold and go for it that I makes me feel alive. Sometimes the rock seems to fight you and you have to find a way to make it up. But usually it feels like you and the mountain are working together to get to the top. I love being in that zone where you just feel connected to the world. It’s like there is the freedom to do anything, a stillness and curiosity that I take from the mountain into my daily life. (Great, it makes women connect with you.)

Another thing you can do is start your profile by going into each of your pictures and explaining them a bit to give an idea of who you are without you making a list of your qualities.

Using bubble words in your dating profile makes your profile stand out

Whatever you decide to write needs to demonstrate the attractive qualities that we talked about a few posts ago. That’s the only reason we’re doing it.

It’s best to write as if she were standing right in front of you. A conversational style does this and allows some of your personality to come through, and in doing so creates an emotional connection with her.

This stuff doesn’t come easy for everyone, and if writing isn’t your thing you need to get your hands on a copy of Magnetic Profiles and use the copy-and-paste examples I have in there to make your profile push the right buttons with women. It’s crucial to make an emotional connection with women, and when dating online the only way to do that is with your profile.

If you have a question about writing your profile, you can ask below in the comments!

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