Successful Online Dating Profiles for Men
Writing your online dating profile is becoming more and more difficult. One, the competition is getting better.
There is so much totally untested, stupid advice out there on what makes a good online dating profile that if you follow the popular advice, you’re going to be lucky to get any attention at all from women on online dating sites.
And I’m talking about the stuff that the dating sites themselves publish in their own forums, advice, and help pages.
Now, the stuff they spew at us sounds like great advice, it’s just that it doesn’t work.
And it pisses me off that they keep telling guys to do the same things over and over when the people running these sites MUST know it doesn’t work.
I don’t know, maybe they figure if they give us a little hope that we’ll stay on their site and pay the monthly fee forever, inspired by the “success stories” that are inevitable when you have that many people looking for a soulmate.
But what I don’t get is that if they just told guys what really worked, they’d get tons of business when we tell our friends how successful we were on their site and then our friends would sign up too.
And it’s not like relationships last forever, we’d sign back up when we were single again.
But whatever, what do I know about how to run an online dating site business? Not much, actually. But I have a lot of online dating profile examples to attract women…
And I’m going to tell you right now that what you’re about to read here isn’t even close to what people say works. If you’ve looked at other advice or you’ve tried to figure out what “should” work, you’re going to think this is nuts.
(Hey, it’s JT coming back to this post because I found a video on youtube that is a really good paradoy of online dating. It shows you some basics of what happens in the mind of a woman.)
But understand that I am interested in one thing, and one thing only.
I don’t give a rip about what sounds good, what should work, what everyone else says, or even what you think. All I care about is what REALLY gets guys like me and you attention and dates with women.
I’ve personally written and tested over 150 successful online dating profiles for guys… with 1,000′s of variations… to find out what really works.
But what actually works.
I’ve condensed that down into these 4 online dating profile writing tips that will get women to notice you no matter how good the competition is.
The beauty of these dating site profile tips is that you don’t even have to do everything I tell you here, and you can STILL get good results.
How to Write Good Online Dating Profiles for Men:
1. Talk like a girl.
Okay, maybe not totally like a girl, but we want to communicate the way women communicate. When I was in Korea, I learned to speak Korean from my girlfriend and her 4 girl friends.
Now, women speak a lot different than men. They use different words, different gestures, they say things a lot different that we do. When we say, “You gotta be fucking kidding me!?!?” a woman will say, “Oh my goodness.”
We say, “Man, that’s great!!!” Women say, “Oh my, that’s fabulous.”
Here’s an example of this in action…
I learned to speak Korean from my girl friend and her girl friends, I picked up the women’s version of how to say things. I didn’t realize how bad it was until I was hanging out with some Korean gusy and they asked my friend if I was gay.
Turns out that I was speaking “homosexual Korean.” I was talking just like a girl. The funny thing was that women were actually all over me. It could be that they thought I really was gay, and therefore safe. Or it could’ve been that they related to me better since I was “speaking their language.”
Whatever it was, it worked to talk like they did.
Now, for online dating, I sure don’t suggest you go this far, but it does help to talk the way women communicate.
That means writing so you they can feel, see, hear, taste and smell what you’re talking about. Let them experience it.
You don’t say, “I like paragliding.” You tell them how it feels to jump off a mountain, the smell of the air at 1,000 feet, how the world looks from way up there, and mostly how it makes you FEEL.
And yeah, I KNOW it sounds really lame when you write that way, but…
2. That’s what the most successful dating profiles for men do..
You’d think that would be common sense, but it’s not. We write our profiles and then ask our GUY friends if they like it.
What?!? Why would we do that?!?
Unless we’re interested in attracting guys, who cares if other guys like our profile?!?
You want WOMEN, so write your profile so WOMEN like it.
(Disclaimer: if your friend is an expert at communicating with women and an expert at online dating, it’s fine to ask his opinion. Otherwise chances are he just thinks he gets it.)
3. A successful online dating profile to attract women will have great pictures.
I’ve tested and written more about this than anyone in the world. Here is a great link to see those articles on online dating profile pictures, but I’ll just give you a quick re-cap here.
You need your main profile picture to be one where you are NOT smiling and NOT facing the camera.
Yeah, I know it goes against everything you’ve ever read about profile pictures but in EVERY SINGLE CASE, WITH EVERY SINGLE GUY I’VE EVER WORKED WITH, changing to a main picture where he was looking away from the camera jacked his results.
4. Don’t make lists in your dating site ad.
Saying that you are “Confident, funny, smart, and enjoy the beach” isn’t going to do squat to inspire women to email you.
You have to SHOW them who you are with your dating site profile. This kinda goes back to #1 where you write a good online dating profile so that she can FELL you.
Here are some great words you can use in your profile to get women bond with you (and if you don’t like them, see #2 above): Desire, fulfillment, curiosity, energy, humming, smooth, slow, resonant.
Those words make a woman FEEL. And we want her to feel you, become attracted to you, and write you.
There you go, a few things that will immediately boost your results. Try these out, or better yet, many of you probably already have my book on writing online dating profiles including how to write emails so that women give you their phone number in 2 messages and what to do if you (for some God-awful reason) have to initiate contact. If not, you can go to this page and buy Magnetic Profiles.
If you don’t get my book, click here to see examples of great online dating profiles or here for some secrets on online dating headlines. I want you to be successful at online dating profile writing so use this stuff!