Profile pictures—things to keep in mind when uploading pictures to your online dating profile
While we’re on a roll, I’d like to continue the theme of profile pictures and what to do/not do in regards to your pics. There are some basics that we should talk about…not necessarily what pictures to put up, but what things to focus on when taking pictures.
The first thing to keep in mind is that you are your own worst critic. That’s true for all of us. But we’re not as bad looking as we think we are. Look, my ears are mangled from fighting, I have a crooked nose from it being broken, a mono brow that needs to be dealt with at least 3 times a week, old people spots on my face and a mole on my nose. By the way, that crooked, moled-up nose spreads all the way across my face when I smile. And that doesn’t even touch on the bald spot that is wreaking havoc with my hair style options. ***But girls don’t ever seem to notice this stuff, or else it just doesn’t matter. And that’s because I follow the advice I’m going to give you below.***
Facial Hair
There’s a lot of argument when it comes to facial hair. I definitely recommend being clean shaven. There are countless studies that show that people trust men with no facial hair more than guys with beards or goatee’s. Some women, however, like a tough-guy or rugged look. So if you’re confident with it and can pull it off, more power to you.
Grooming
Look, you certainly don’t have to be hot, but you do have to be well groomed. Women notice a lot more of the little things than men do.
Shape your eyebrows, either with scissors or with tweezers. I know, it seems pretty girlie…but it makes a difference. Check out some videos on youtube if you’re unfamiliar with this. And no, it does not make you gay to pluck your eyebrows. Just ask the women you’re sleeping with, they’ll tell confirm it for you.
Errant nose hairs get the same treatment. Get rid of them. Just take a look next time you’re at work and talking to people. Notice how many guys have hairs sticking out of their noses. It’s gross, and I bet you never even noticed before. But I can guarantee you that all the women at the office have.
Same goes for any hair growing out of your ears or any moles. 86 ‘em. And if your picture shows your neckline, clean it up and get rid of the hairs trailing down your neck from the back of your head.
And use moisturizer. There’s a reason a well-kept woman looks so good. She spends a little time on herself. Every day. And that’s the key: to make this stuff part of your routine.
A Real Photoshoot
First off, if it’s obvious that you used a professional photo shoot, women are going to wonder what is wrong with you. Mentally and physically.
It’s ok to do, but the photos have to look natural. No backgrounds, no trying to look sexy. Get your pics taken outdoors or in a normal setting. The thing a pro can do is make you look 5 years younger and 10 pounds lighter if they’re decent at their job.
If you don’t want to pay a professional, take a look at your local college and get a photography student to do it for cheap. In fact, if you put an ad on craigslist you may find someone who is willing to do it just for the experience. If it’s not free, it will at least be at a super discount.
Cheating with a Photo-Editor
It’s not fair to change the way you look with a photo editor like Photoshop, but it’s alright to make yourself look like you do on your best day. Nothing wrong with that. If you have a pimple on your nose or dark circles under your eyes, those are temporary. So get rid of them in your photos if you know how. Soften up your wrinkles a bit, clean yourself up a bit…but don’t go crazy. It still has to be you under there.
Again, these are just some basic rules to follow when taking your pictures. Since your photos are what’s going to get a woman to look further into your profile, it’s imperative that you get the most bang for your buck. Check out some more posts on the subject if you’d like some more great information.
If you have great pictures that have worked for you, please let me know in the comments!
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