Online dating messages—writing the first paragraph for a certain type of girl

Ahhh… life is good.

Or maybe I just got lucky.

But in yesterday’s post I put it all on the line and went public with an email that I wrote for one of my subscribers before we knew if it was going to work.

And here’s the email I got from him this morning:

J.T.
 
     I sent your message you gave me. Word for word.   The difference in her is night and day.  I understand she was weeding out the boys from the men. Honestly she was coming off as a bitch. now she is purrin’ like a kitten. Oh and she gave up her number without me asking for it.
 
   Any input as to where my mindset should be at this point would be helpful. this has accelerated a little quicker then I expected. I wouldn’t mind meeting her in person. 
 
      Thanks again… Jason

Ahhh… this made my day! I love it when things move along the way they’re supposed to with the women we meet online.

And I love helping good guys finish first.

I want you to understand WHY the email I wrote for Jason worked as well as it did so that you can have this same kind of success.

First of all, I had a look at the girl’s profile to get a feel for her and to get a general idea how to seduce her. She is your typical Disappointed Dreamer as Robert Greene in The Art of Seduction would call her.

A Disappointed Dreamer is someone who’s idealistic view of the world has been shattered by the reality of life.

They are usually stuck in boring relationships. They have a lot of pent-up energy and passion, vivid imaginations, and respond well to ambiguity.

These women are one of the easiest to attract. All you have to do is give them hope. They often want to believe the world isn’t really as harsh as their reality has led them to believe, so you let them live a fantasy through you.

Personally, I don’t prefer these kinds of women, they take too much work and there are more fulfilling types of women who are a lot more fun. But, for some guys, these are the perfect women.

(You asked for it, you got it, here’s the list of the 9 types of women.)

Now, let’s break down the first. Here it is again:

Okay, I’m not sure if you’re trying to seduce me here or not, but I refuse to let you have your way so soon. Interesting answers to my questions. 🙂 I’m impressed. You have some depth to you. You seem really kind, yet have your priorities straight and value yourself and your time. Nice.

Breaking down this paragraph to see how it hooks her

We accuse her of trying to seduce us.

This does a couple of things. One, the focus isn’t on the girl trying to dodge Jason’s attempts to attract her. The focus shifts to the girl deciding if she is interested or not.

You don’t want to play this card if the girl isn’t at least a little attracted to you, but if she is, it works great.

The second thing this does is make us a challenge. We are going to make the woman prove herself to you. You want her to chase a little.

Yes, you are going to let her catch you, and you might pursue her a bit too, but you want her to feel like she is in control the whole time.

In the next sentence we tell her that we are impressed with her. Not for her looks or hot body, but for what she SAYS. This is important when you are seducing any kind of woman. You want her to know you value something in her besides her looks.

Next, you tell her you see the qualities in her that she most likes about herself, like I talk about in this post .

So here’s what you do in the opening of your email message:

First, figure out what kind of girl you’re working with from this list of Robert Green’s types. Second, decide what your girl likes the most about herself, and tell her that you see those things in her.

For more on writing emails that get women attracted to you, check out this post.