Your Last 2 Online Dating Profile Pictures For Guys
So wouldn’t you just love to see a picture like that on a woman’s profile? Unfortunately we probably won’t and if we get racey in our pictures, chances are we’ll just scare women away.
Hey Guys,
Online dating profile pictures for guys can make or break your entire profile. Today I’m going to give you the last two pictures to post.
Okay, a few more pictures that are going to help you in your search for that perfect woman (The first one can be found here:
In a social setting having fun with attractive friends
The idea here is to let them know you are sociable, have attractive friends, and people like being around you. You want to show that you are well liked and social.
Even though the stigma of internet dating is just about gone, there is still going to be some worry that people online aren’t socially adept.
You need to prove that you have a circle of friends and you’re not some psycho Unabomber or a serial killer. And yes, I know the majority of serial killers are good socially, but the media doesn’t portray them that way and we don’t think of them that way. So you have to put up a picture of you having fun with friends.
The best thing here is to have a candid shot where everyone is smiling or laughing, even better if they are looking at you so it appears you are the reason everyone’s having a good time. A shot of everyone looking at the camera and smiling is good too.
If you have a few good shots of you with a group of well dressed, normal looking friends in different social settings, put up more than one in this area.
You doing something unique
You need to have at least one shot (preferably more) of you doing something unique or you in a unique place. For example I have a picture of me flying my paraglider with an eagle in the same thermal. There is another one of me where I’m eating live bamboo worms with half of them sticking out of my mouth. And the best one is of me riding a water buffalo in Laos.
The three dating pictures I use for these
In about 60% of the emails, the woman commented on one of those photos. What you want is to give the girl something that is really easy to comment on so it’s easy for her to start a conversation with you.
No matter what her email says, when you get an email from someone, what she is really saying is that she’s interested in you. Sometimes women are interested but don’t know what to say.
They feel stupid or just don’t want to invest the time to read your whole profile and come up with something meaningful to say.
They want easy, so give them easy. Include at least two pictures that make it simple for them to comment to you on. Then when you reply (and I will teach you what to say when you reply) you’ve got them. All you need to do is get them to send that first email.
Pictures you might want to put in
The next set of pictures we’re going to talk about are optional and somewhat unknown. We’ve tested them, but not to the degree that we did with other ones. There isn’t hard research on these kinds of pictures either. We’re just going on our gut based on what we know about attracting women and using two or three months of testing rather than a year or more.
You with kids
Our suggestion is not to put pictures up with you and any kids, yours or otherwise. First of all, some people think it’s dangerous because pedophiles are hunting the online personals looking for kids to molest. In fact the research shows that a kid’s more likely to be taken advantage of in a mall than from something stemming from an online dating site. But since there seems to be an extreme paranoia among some women about this, and they might think you’re decision making is suspect, it might be better to leave kids off your pictures. Although the advantage is that it keeps the extreme paranoids from contacting you.
Second, the woman’s not dating your kids. She’s dating you. Yeah, I know at some point it’s possible that she’s going to meet your kids, but for now, don’t sell the package deal. Sell yourself. There are a lot of women who will screen you out if you have kids, so don’t advertise it blatantly. You can simply mention that you have kids in your profile or, if the site has it, click the box to say you have kids.
If you want kids or want a woman who wants kids, you could put up a picture of you with your kid/s. I’m not convinced most guys want kids, and if we think we do, it’s because someone else told us it would be a great idea. Biologically we are predetermined not to want to raise someone else’s offspring. That doesn’t mean that social pressure and individual choices won’t lead you to accepting a woman who has kids. If that’s the case, then go ahead and put a picture of you with kids up.
You with a dog or cat
Having a pet “proves” that you’re capable of taking care of something besides yourself and that you have potential as a father.
If you’re going to put up a picture of you with a pet, stick with a dog or a cat. Yeah, I know, your iguana/tarantula/boa constrictor is really cool and you love it, but unless you only want iguana/tarantula/boa constrictor lovers, then leave pictures of them off the site. If you want normal women who dislike or are afraid of spiders, snakes, and other reptiles –then don’t even mention that you own these until you meet in person. That’s not tested, but just common sense.
My Big Dog is happy to see me! Get a candid picture like this if you can.
Dogs, especially puppies, get the overall best response, but women like cats too. We don’t really like cats, and I’m a bit freaked out by women who are obsessed with them, so we didn’t test cat pictures.
Regardless if you use a cat or a dog, make sure the pictures don’t look contrived. Instead of just posing with your pooch, have some kind of action shot like a side view of the dog sitting for you.
The only reason we didn’t make this a mandatory picture is that we haven’t tested it enough to know for sure if it works. When we didn’t have a picture doing something unusual, the dog picture was often used as justification for women to initiate conversation. But when we put up various interesting pictures (including bungie jumping, cliff diving, and eating the bamboo worms that we tested one at a time), the comments on the dog picture dropped to about 8% of the picture comments. This indicates that the women were just using the dog picture as an excuse to contact us but preferred our other pictures.
So, if you don’t have a picture of you doing something interesting like we suggested in the mandatory pictures, then post a shot of you and dog for sure. If you have other unique pictures, then you don’t really need a picture of you with a dog.
You with an attractive woman
This one is tough. The reason some guys say you need a picture with a good looking woman is to show that other women find you attractive. The psychology behind this is that you’ve been pre-selected by other attractive women.
I can tell you that without a doubt this works in real life. It works so well that I hesitated to take the pictures of me with two beautiful 20-something ex-girlfriends (I’m in my mid-40’s) off my additional pictures. I read all the stuff in the forums women said about not wanting to see pictures of some guy with other women.
The girls I dated online also told me that they didn’t like those pictures, that they were intimidating. But I resisted because I know that sometimes what women say they like and don’t like isn’t always what really works or doesn’t work.
And I know for a fact that when I walk into a social setting with a hot woman on my arm I’m more attractive to the women already there than when I go in alone or with guy friends. If I come in with two beautiful 20-somethings, I get even more attention from women. So this works out the real world.
The thing is, the internet doesn’t always equate to real life. We found our responses went up over 50% when we took the pictures of me with two ex-girlfriends off two of the major online dating sites.
I couldn’t believe it and we tested taking off pictures of ex-girlfriends with a bunch of the older profiles. In every single case, we got more responses without the pictures with attractive women.
So that’s it! These are the last two online dating profile pictures you need!
This is counter-intuitive, but the results don’t lie.
Talk to you soon. Keep up the good work and keep the emails coming!
My best—JT
You also might want to check out these posts:
The 2 most important profile pictures
My most recent post on profile pictures that gives you the results from my latest test
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