Your Profile For Online Dating – writing a profile that works

Alright, we are going to go over some of the things I’ve seen guys messing up when writing a profile.

For some of you it’s going to seem basic, because we are going back to the fundamentals here.

The core of what works for online dating profile writing. Nothing really fancy, just good solid stuff that is going to get you consistent results.

Because at the end of the day, it’s the basics that separate the winners from the losers, whether it’s with women, a job, or sports.

When I wrestled in high school and college, we spent half the practices on the fundamentals… we drilled single and double leg takedowns for hours. Same thing when I was fighting full time, my coach had me doing footwork for at least a third of my workouts. It was teaching those fundamentals that made my coaches great.

Nothing fancy, no crazy tricks, no gimmicks… just the basics. And today we are going to go over the fundamentals of writing a good online dating profile.

Because writing a profile is one of the two most important things when it comes to attracting women online. (The other is choosing your online dating profile pictures.) You miss on this, or try to get fancy, and you’re results go WAY down.

And I’ve seen both ends of the spectrum here. Profile examples from guys who had basically nothing on their profiles, to guys who try and write funny online dating profiles. Neither of those work… UNLESS you are really funny. But even so the problem is that humor depends so much on the mood of the person and the context it’s said in. Too risky for me.

So, with that said… let’s get into the key things I do making when guys have me re-do their profile for online dating.

Make sure you fill out every section where you enter the basic information about yourself.

And for sure put your job. Since the economy isn’t the best right now, a lot of people think it’s cute to put “I have one” or “Yes” where the online dating site asks for your name. Don’t do that.

Just put in your profession if you don’t have a job. No biggee.

Make sure your spelling and punctuation is good. and be sure to use the right form of “you’re” and “your” and “their”, “there” and “they’re”. if you suck at this, and a lot of people do, send me your profile before you put it on any internet dating site, and I’ll fix those mistakes for you for nothing. Just say please and thank you, and we’re good. I don’t want any of my friends here to get crappy results because of something totally preventable.

When you’re writing a profile, talk about at least one of your profile pictures in your write-up. This gives the woman something easy to talk about when she writes to you.

Keep everything positive. Talk about what you want, not what you don’t want. This is really important when writing a profile for online dating. Because the girl reading it has to guess at everything about you, and fill in the blanks, you want to keep things light and fun. no serious stuff, and for sure no blasting your ex’s.

Show a bit of vulnerability. Make a confession. Say you watch Desperate Housewives” or that you’re afraid of the dark. Yes, you want to show your strength and confidence, but some small admission of imperfection makes you real, makes you human, AND makes you stand out compared to all the other profiles she’s read where the guy is trying to prove what a “Man” he is.

Do not try to sell yourself. This is probably the biggest mistake I see guys make on their online dating profiles. They try to “prove” what a great catch they are. It comes off as weak and needy. What you want to do instead is write about who you are, what you’re about, and what you like about yourself. Show that you like yourself and that she will like you as well.

Write like a woman. This one is really hard for most guys to do. We just don’t think this way. But, if you can write so a woman can see, hear, feel and taste whatever it is you’re writing about in your profile, she is going to connect with you on all those levels.

Another thing that I’d suggest, and I just started doing this with my own profiles, is to ask questions in your profile. Something like, “So what do you think?” or “You ever have that happen to you?”

Women who are interested and just need an excuse to contact you will answer your questions… and BAM, the conversation is started!

And that’s all you’re trying to do with your profile… you just want women to contact you. So use these ideas when writing your profile and you’ll see the number of women emailing you go up. And, as always, if you have any questions, I’ve got your back. Send me a message and let me know what’s up.

Oh, and if you want all the details about what works and what doesn’t when it comes to your profile, this is a great post on writing online dating profiles.